A few years back, during a leadership seminar, the topic of motivation was discussed. The instructor noted that, while people really need to motivate themselves, it is possible to create an environment that is conducive to motivation.
“Catch them when they’re doing something right,” he said.
Do we? Is this something that we look for?
A lot of times it seems as if our automatic default is set to the negative side of things. The news certainly bears this out. We have become so inundated with stories of crime, suffering and hopelessness that we begin to assume that mind-set.
If someone is attacked, we wonder if they did something to provoke it: What did he or she say? How was the person dressed? Why was she at that place at that time? Or if someone is accused, then they certainly must be guilty, right? I mean, innocent until proven guilty is a nice concept, but….
We try to be positive. There are books upon books to try to help us to be more positive, think more positively and live more positively. So why can’t we seem to make it stick?
It’s been said that, in order to either break a habit or make something become a habit, you have to do it for 30 days.
That is why this month I have a challenge for you—and myself. This month we are celebrating Mother’s Day. It’s a pretty positive event, I would say. So let’s use it as a jumping off point for change.
This month, make a concerted effort to be more positive. Given the year we’ve had, I understand how that could be a challenge. I’m not just talking about offering positive feedback within your family, either. Make an effort to take your positive attitude to the streets and spread some positive energy. That’s what the world needs—positivity and grace.
Try to see if you can do one positive thing a day for the rest of the month. It doesn’t have to be big, just enough to change the tide of negativity a little bit. The possibilities are endless, and the paybacks are definitely huge.
Most of us can admit that we have given our moms their fair share of grief for their rules and advice as we were growing up. But, how often do we let them know what we truly love and appreciate about them? Mother’s Day provides us with the perfect opportunity. Let your mom know all the things you appreciate that she has done for you—even if you didn’t show it at the time. You can either tell her in person or write it down for her.
For those who are without their moms on this holiday, offer a prayer to your mom with the same sentiments as if she were still alive.
Peace and all good blessings,